@anne - if you go to the Naturally Curly website, you will find that curly hair comes in all textures. That stereotype of coarse, wiry, curly hair is only one type. The reality includes waves, loose curls, tighter curls, kinky curls and all combinations of the above, as well as curls ranging from baby-fine to kinky-coarse wiry. People don't always know this either. With my own hair, I have mixed textures and types of curls on my head, ranging from finer hairs to medium in texture, but I have a LOT of it. Plus the curls themselves vary, from the underneath layers being quite curly, to just slightly wavy top layer which sometimes hides all the beautiful curls underneath. But I AM fortunate to have a wonderful hair cutter who knows how to deal with curly hair here in San Francisco. There are others though. But still, good curly hair cutters are in the distinct minority, and many of us curlies have had bad haircuts until we found one. I feel for you with never having had a good hair cut for your type of hair. Do you have a pic so we can see?