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Skin Care / Re: Crepey chest?
« Last post by Styyna on October 15, 2017, 06:16:46 AM »
I have to confess that I have no solid answers. In my young days of suntanning with abandon I caused so much damage to that area that I have pretty much written it off. I have read that one should treat the neck and décolleté with the same care as the face and that makes sense. Following that wisdom, retin-A would seem to be worth considering but I would make sure it’s safe. It feels to me like the skin in that area is even more delicate than that on my face. Please let us know what you learn and decide!
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Let's Just Chat / Re: Help. I Can't Stand Aging
« Last post by Styyna on October 15, 2017, 06:12:19 AM »
Ack! I just logged in and discovered that a reply I started a couple of days ago was never sent. I’m sorry for the delayed response, LAWoman.

I understand about the issues of dealing with antidepressants and discontinuing them. However, I still believe they can be some people’s best hope for a more normal life. Certainly they make the difference between my ability to function or not. And I learned yesterday that one of my sons has recently had an issue with his antidepressant and had to switch to a new one but he is again functioning normally, thank goodness.

A bad experience with a therapist is almost criminal. I had one that was bad and nearly poisoned the whole bunch for me. I am grateful that I got back on that horse though and, over the years, have found good ones. I live in a somewhat rural area and I thought that it was hard to find therapists here but, also yesterday, learned that in a large metropolitan area they are in such short supply that it’s hard to find one that will add you to a waiting list! So there are challenges in finding that sort of help but, with persistence, it’s possible. I hope that you will consider trying someone new.

As for how feeling better might help given your circumstances — it would make it easier to cope with difficult circumstances. I speak, again, from experience. Depression and anxiety strip away hope from one’s life. Without hope, life loses much of its meaning. Fortunately for you, you have your children who need you and help provide meaning. Please don’t downplay how important that is to your very survival. Being needed can be a very important part of life. It’s something that, now that my sons are grown and independent, I feel lacking most in my own life. My DH needs me and for that I’m grateful. You have your children and they need you even more than my DH needs me.

Have you ever read Viktor Frankl’s small book, Man’s Search for Meaning? I highly recommend it for anyone who is struggling with hope. I read it many years ago but reread it when I was struggling with depression in more recent history and found it well worth the second read.

Please keep writing! Let us know how you’re doing, how you children are, and anything else you care to share. We’re here for you!
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Entertainment / Re: what is the last movie you watched?
« Last post by Styyna on October 11, 2017, 11:10:54 AM »
Hi Karen! Welcome to The Timeless Beauty!

Thanks for the movie recommendation. Something fun and not serious sounds perfect right now what with all the terrible news about shootings and wildfires.
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Skin Care / Crepey chest?
« Last post by LAWoman67 on October 10, 2017, 08:02:25 PM »
Hey everyone...

What do you do about a crepey décolleté? Is it pretty much down to Retin-A? Any OTC recs?

Thanks!  :heartthrob:
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Let's Just Chat / Re: Help. I Can't Stand Aging
« Last post by LAWoman67 on October 10, 2017, 01:49:48 PM »
Thank you so, so much for understanding, Tyyna. That helps a lot.

I actually have struggled with clinical depression all my life. It started when I was about 8 and came to a head when I was 11-12-ish, when it became just pretty much all the time. After that, I struggled, tried self-help books, meditation, you name it until finally in my early 20s, Prozac had just come out and I saw a therapist who put me on it. (I think that was actually the year it came out.)

It helped very well and I was amazed, but eventually it kind of stopped working. Over the years I've been on and off other ADs. The side effects are scary with many of them and none have a super-long half-life like Prozac has so they all came with discontinuation syndrome, something I just don't ever want to have to struggle with again.

I had a scary thing happen at my most recent therapist's office and have been afraid to contact another therapist since then. I am thinking of trying herbs.

I don't know how feeling better will help the other things, like my situation and my marriage and my husband's lack of caring, but...I am really scared of how I feel because of my children. My children have special needs and I can't imagine how they'd deal if I were gone. I don't think there would be much upset on any other front.

Thank you again...it really, really meant the world to me to hear from someone.
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Entertainment / Re: what is the last movie you watched?
« Last post by KarenSi on October 10, 2017, 09:51:50 AM »
The last movie I've seen was Baby Driver. Fun little flick, nothing too serious. I can recommend it.
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Makeup / Re: Share a few things you have been loving......
« Last post by Styyna on October 10, 2017, 05:04:50 AM »
Hi Jenny and welcome to The Timeless Beauty. You’ve arrived with a lot to say! It seems that you have a blog that might be of interest. Have you found I Have a Beauty Blog or Forum? You are allowed to share a link to your blog on that board and tell us a little bit about the content of your blog.

I hope you will continue to share your knowledge with us on the rest of the forum, too!
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Let's Just Chat / Re: Help. I Can't Stand Aging
« Last post by Styyna on October 10, 2017, 04:58:37 AM »
Ah, LAWoman, I understand where you’re coming from. You’re in a terrible place right now but hang on, it does get better!

For me, the watershed age was 60. Suddenly I felt OLD! I gained weight due to medications, lost my libido due to the same meds, and developed significant jowls all overnight or so it seemed.

I found that seeing a good therapist was invaluable and I highly recommend it for you. I found a woman who “got me” and offered practical ideas for ways to approach my changing perception of myself. I’m 62 now and still having some issues dealing with the idea of getting older. Unfortunately, the therapist I was seeing has moved on and I need to find a new one. But I so believe in their value that I’m willing to do what it takes to find another good one.

You mention being “scary-depressed”. Has it occurred to you that you might be suffering from clinical depression? I ask as someone who has suffered from depression her whole life and I feel like I’m recognizing in you the feelings I had when my depression was raging. Depression tells me that everything in my life is awful and hopeless but, once I was treated with the right medication and therapy, I learned that depression lies. If this sounds at all like it might apply to you I encourage you to seek help.

You’re right—we can’t offer therapy here but we can listen and offer encouragement. We can understand what getting older feels like, both the good and the not-so-good aspects of it. So please feel free to write again and share how you’re faring. We care.
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Skin Care / Re: Derma Rollers - anyone used them?
« Last post by Styyna on October 10, 2017, 04:35:22 AM »
I think I know about derma rollers but not microneedling. I should probably use Google but I’m lazy so will ask: What is microneedling and how does it differ from derma rolling?
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Makeup / Re: Where to (re)start?
« Last post by Styyna on October 10, 2017, 04:33:54 AM »
Cara, I haven’t yet. Thanks for asking though. I’ve found my energies being diverted to other lifestyle changes, primarily diet and exercise. I also have been working on my wardrobe and feel that makeup and accessories will naturally follow. I’ll be sure to update when I get to that point!
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