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Let's Just Chat / Re: Help. I Can't Stand Aging
« Last post by Styyna on October 10, 2017, 04:58:37 AM »
Ah, LAWoman, I understand where you’re coming from. You’re in a terrible place right now but hang on, it does get better!

For me, the watershed age was 60. Suddenly I felt OLD! I gained weight due to medications, lost my libido due to the same meds, and developed significant jowls all overnight or so it seemed.

I found that seeing a good therapist was invaluable and I highly recommend it for you. I found a woman who “got me” and offered practical ideas for ways to approach my changing perception of myself. I’m 62 now and still having some issues dealing with the idea of getting older. Unfortunately, the therapist I was seeing has moved on and I need to find a new one. But I so believe in their value that I’m willing to do what it takes to find another good one.

You mention being “scary-depressed”. Has it occurred to you that you might be suffering from clinical depression? I ask as someone who has suffered from depression her whole life and I feel like I’m recognizing in you the feelings I had when my depression was raging. Depression tells me that everything in my life is awful and hopeless but, once I was treated with the right medication and therapy, I learned that depression lies. If this sounds at all like it might apply to you I encourage you to seek help.

You’re right—we can’t offer therapy here but we can listen and offer encouragement. We can understand what getting older feels like, both the good and the not-so-good aspects of it. So please feel free to write again and share how you’re faring. We care.
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Skin Care / Re: Derma Rollers - anyone used them?
« Last post by Styyna on October 10, 2017, 04:35:22 AM »
I think I know about derma rollers but not microneedling. I should probably use Google but I’m lazy so will ask: What is microneedling and how does it differ from derma rolling?
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Makeup / Re: Where to (re)start?
« Last post by Styyna on October 10, 2017, 04:33:54 AM »
Cara, I haven’t yet. Thanks for asking though. I’ve found my energies being diverted to other lifestyle changes, primarily diet and exercise. I also have been working on my wardrobe and feel that makeup and accessories will naturally follow. I’ll be sure to update when I get to that point!
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Let's Just Chat / Help. I Can't Stand Aging
« Last post by LAWoman67 on October 09, 2017, 08:10:27 PM »
...and yes, I realize exactly how shallow that sounds.

...and no, I wasn't one of those "gorgeous girls" who could have anyone they wanted and yadda yadda. In fact I've struggled my entire life to convince anyone to love me. I am married but I feel more like a convenience, to be honest.

But the ONE thing I probably had going for me was that I looked very young.

This year I turned 50 and I'm telling you ladies...no lie, I aged IN THIS YEAR specifically. Like literally, boom. Out of nowhere. I even have a sagging neck! I look in the mirror and I see a stranger.

Now granted I did lose a big chunk of weight. That could have something to do with it but the net effect is that I have hideous flap-skin weight loss arms, a loose neck, and just everything drooping and dripping everywhere and I am so horrified.

I wanted to be non-shallow and handle all this. I have always felt it was inside that counted. But I am not dealing with all this very well. I feel like I have gotten to the half-century mark and am still an utter failure. I still haven't written my book. I am still making just $15/hour (yes, seriously) part-time freelance writing. I still can't support myself. I still am not loved and now, pretty much never will be. I've been watching the show Catfish. Okay, occasionally it's a woman but MOST of the time it cycles like this: the guy swears up and down that "nobody gets me" like his intended, and "even though I know she stole the pictures and won't look like them, nothing can change what we've shared, I love her for what's inside, I want to give it a chance" and he sees she's 10 lbs. overweight or not model-beautiful and you just see the face fall.

Every.

Single.

Time.

I get that this forum isn't a therapy session but I needed to spill somewhere. I am so depressed that I'm actually getting frightened at this point. It's been quite a few months now that I've been feeling this way, and now have just turned 50 this summer.

We don't have much money. I'm begging my husband for plastic surgery but he'll never go for it. I think he likes that I can't crawl away from him and have a hope in hell of ever attracting another man because I'm just a flappy, gross old bat. And we really are having financial troubles...but I have done so my entire life. My. Entire. Life.

I will live and die never having had two dimes together, ugly, aged and alone.

I never, never, ever ever ever ever expected this to hit me in this way. I just didn't. I am in shock...but also, as I said, scary-depressed. I am afraid of the thoughts I have sometimes in the wee hours of the nighttime.

Can anybody relate?

And yeah, I get that now I can let it all hang out and wear my red hat and be eccentric and all that and oh, it's so freeing not to be sexually attractive and all that...except...nope, I've read all the same inspirational memes and blog posts and I am still not buying it.

Help...
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Skin Care / Re: Derma Rollers - anyone used them?
« Last post by Angelcat47 on October 09, 2017, 12:13:53 PM »
I prefer microneedling and mesotherapy as dermarollers can be a tad aggressive and there is a risk of snagging the skin.
I'd be interested in how you microneedle ( I know what it is,so I mean your actual technique).Thanks
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Makeup / Re: Where to (re)start?
« Last post by cara4art on October 07, 2017, 09:38:46 AM »
@styyna: did you ever get around to buying new makeup? I know you had planned to but the last we heard was that you were waiting up on your husband's car to be fixed or something.
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Makeup / Re: Share a few things you have been loving......
« Last post by JustJennyFromTheBlog on October 07, 2017, 07:54:43 AM »
Dr Organic moisturisers and lip balms, Vichy moisturisers. Vichy also do a gentle skin peel. Also Body Shop vitamin C cream is good. ( I used to use Olay and Loreal, but they made my skin angry and red as they contain parabens and chemicals ect) Vichy Dermablend oxidation SPF protection foundation - looks so natural and treats the skin! .
Fresh minerals blusher and eyeshadows are good for the skin and blend well. I like the lippie too. I find lots of cosmetic uses for raw coconut oil and I love micellar water by Simple.
NaturVital Shampoo & conditioner, not tested on animals - natural ingredients.
Naturtint hair colour. Kind to the environment and cruelty free.
St Ives apricot facial scrub as it contains no nasty plastic particles.
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Makeup / Re: Contouring
« Last post by JustJennyFromTheBlog on October 07, 2017, 07:40:46 AM »
Daniel Sandler sent me a powder contouring kit and I love it!
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Makeup / Re: Eye Makeup Remover?
« Last post by JustJennyFromTheBlog on October 07, 2017, 07:38:55 AM »
Coconut oil and Simple Micellar Water
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Makeup / Re: Where to (re)start?
« Last post by JustJennyFromTheBlog on October 07, 2017, 07:38:10 AM »
Cannot live without foundation and mascara! But also cannot live without Semi Permanent Tattooed on Make Up!  :D
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