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Styyna

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Wedding casual?
« on: March 19, 2015, 09:57:24 AM »
I'm trying to wrap my mind around what would be appropriate for mother of the groom that is "wedding casual." The men are wearing button down shirts and slacks, no suits. The wedding is at 5 pm outside of a cabin on a lake in northern MN.

I don't have a clue what to think about, much less what to look for. I think I will have to wear flat shoes as I'm afraid heels might sink into the ground. I've done a little looking around and so many of the summer dresses that I've found are either too formal or too youthful.

Does anyone have suggestions for styles and/or where I might look. Incidentally, I'm hoping to drop a few pounds before the wedding but to be safe whatever I look at should be available in up to a size 16. Thanks in advance for any advice!
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SusanG

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #1 on: March 19, 2015, 12:11:12 PM »
No suggestions for dresses (yet), but an alternative to flats would be wedges. They have flat bottoms to avoid that stuck-in-the-grass situation, but a little (or more) height for a sexy leg!
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Styyna

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #2 on: March 19, 2015, 02:49:16 PM »
Wedges! What a great idea. Aren't they supposed to be a bit more stable than heels, too? I haven't worn heels in years and I don't want to be wobbly. I'll have to pick out a dress and shoes in advance so I can practice walking in them! Thanks, SusanG!
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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #3 on: March 19, 2015, 04:19:45 PM »
Not much help here, I'm afraid.  :(  I've never been to a casual wedding but that sounds really nice, though. I can't wait to hear what the other ladies have to say or suggest.  :popcorn:
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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #4 on: March 19, 2015, 04:52:19 PM »
No suggestions for dresses (yet), but an alternative to flats would be wedges. They have flat bottoms to avoid that stuck-in-the-grass situation, but a little (or more) height for a sexy leg!

Exactly what I was going to suggest!  Definitely wedges.  And a bare leg.  It's in the summer, right?
Being height-challenged, I wear them all the time.   :grin:
Even my flip-flops have a little wedge.
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Styyna

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #5 on: March 21, 2015, 02:27:50 PM »
I'm on board with the wedges but boy howdy, do I need recs for stores that carry dresses. I've been to the sites of all the big name stores and even if I were willing to pay many hundreds of dollars (I'm not), I can't find anything that isn't too formal or too young. Any store suggestions?
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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #6 on: March 22, 2015, 01:10:10 PM »
Congratulations!  This sounds like a happy occasion and a chance to see lots of family and friends.  The cabin in Minnesota also sounds beautiful so how cool!  Just to say that mainly I hope you have a wonderful day. 

Maybe a linen shift or simple dress in a color that looks totally fantastic on you?  Linen is both classy and cool, and it can wrinkle without any pain.  MN is usually hot in the summer.  I'd find a linen dress, great earrings or bracelet(s)/simple necklace, comfy sandals or wedges, and remember to wear lots of mosquito repellant.  That's just me ... I spent the summers in MN and was eaten alive!

Quotidienne has great styles. 

http://shopquotidienne.com/clothing/dresses

The owner is on this forum from time to time or you could write her directly and ask her advice.  I know her through the internet and MUA and she has fantastic, minimalist style and is also super-nice and conscious of the issues we deal with being older. 

I still have a linen shift I bought in a thrift store 5 years ago.  It's totally simple but perfect for fancy or plain occasions with leggings or jeans underneath.  I like it so much I made 2 others almost exactly like it in linen in other colors (super easy to sew).  I added pockets and a different neckline. 

Most of all, congrats to the mother of the groom and sending you lots of thoughts for a happy day.


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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #7 on: March 22, 2015, 09:33:13 PM »
@gilberte: I was thinking similar for Styyna, but didn't say anything. She'd also get more wear out it than just that one occasion. Like you, I'm a fan of linen, especially in a nice color and interesting cut. But then, for myself I do like more artistically-cut and fit clothes. Others may like something a little more classic in cut, which I have the sense that Styyna might like.

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #8 on: March 23, 2015, 08:58:40 AM »
I had forgotten about Quotidienne. I believe that is Veuve's business, isn't it? I will definitely check it out! Thanks for pointing it out, gilberte!

As for style, yes, I think something simple would be my preference. Linen would be, as you and Cara pointed out, ideal.

The trick is to find something available online since I live too far from dress shops to shop in person. Places like Quotidienne are just the kind of recommendations I need. I want something that is appropriate but not mainstream. The mainstream dresses are the ones that are too dressy/formal or too youthful. Maybe if I had the same size and shape as I had in my 40s I'd feel differently but for now I'm looking for something without a lot of trim and frills and with a length that at least reaches my knees.

I had to laugh about the mosquito repellent. I think that will be the fragrance of the ceremony because you are so right about how bad mosquitos are in MN during the summer. Especially during the time of the ceremony - 5 pm - they are just coming out as the sun begins to ebb and seem to be particularly voracious.

Many thanks for the congrats, good wishes, and good advice! :)
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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #9 on: March 23, 2015, 05:21:39 PM »
  Your son’s wedding promises to be a joyful event and  a lovely party. In general, people feel much more comfortable in smart casual clothes than in very formal clothes (I know I do.)
You could inspire yourself in a celebrity. The person that comes to mind is Judi Dench, because you both have blue eyes and you’ve had your hair cut short. I love her trousers, tunic and long scarf outfits in the film ‘The new exotic Marigold Hotel’.  Something like that would work really well for a summer wedding.
Here’s some of the outfits:

 http://cdn-media.hollywood.com/images/l/judi_dench.jpg
http://www.aceshowbiz.com/images/wennpic/judi-dench-uk-premiere-the-best-exotic-marigold-hotel-01.jpg
http://www.seo-chicks.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/Judi-Dench_2.jpg
http://www.blogcdn.com/slideshows/images/slides/217/031/4/S2170314/slug/l/184777976-1.jpg
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Styyna

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #10 on: March 23, 2015, 07:27:30 PM »
Thanks, milla! Great ideas and inspiration pictures. I particularly liked the second and the last outfits. I will expand my horizons to include trousers and tunics. Too bad I'm so rusty with sewing; both garments would be fairly easy to sew. But, rusty I am and I think I have my hands full with knitting anyway. :)
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milla

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #11 on: March 24, 2015, 08:03:16 AM »
Glad you liked it. In my view this is a style that always looks elegant. You are lucky because you are quite tall, aren't you, so they  would look great on you. Now  that I wrote this, I am not quite sure if Dame Judi is particularly tall... and she looks fabulous wearing these outfits! My sewing is also very rusty; I have made a couple of tank tops last Summer, but I haven't done half as much as I had planned before retiring. One of the reasons is the price of fabric and the difficulty in getting hold of it. Years ago, I used to buy remnants in our local market, but that is when we had some clothes factories in this country. Now, there is only a couple of big department stores that still have a fabric department and a few specialist shops in London selling very expensive fabrics.
 If you like the idea of tunic and trousers you could get something lovely a good department store and then splash out on a beautiful silk scarf.

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #12 on: March 24, 2015, 08:41:28 AM »
Alas, I'm not tall, only on the short end of average and rounder than I'd like to be (but I'm working on that!). However, that won't stop me from looking at the style you suggested. Comfort is as important as appearance to me and I like the idea of a tunic and trousers with a lovely scarf as a way to meet both criteria.

About finding fabric, can you find it online? There are a number of resources online in the US and most will supply swatches upon request. I should think there might be some in the UK as well though I've not done any research.

I, too, remember when fabric shops were more common. Now my options are a big chain, JoAnn Fabrics, outlet shops, and online. Not that I've done any sewing in years. But one of these days I will set aside my knitting and warm up my sewing machine. One of my favorite knitting forums has a topic dedicated to sewing and just reading about it has me wanting to dive into it again.
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gilberte

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #13 on: March 29, 2015, 02:06:01 PM »
Fabric stores are coming back in a small, arty, hip way.  I bought great fabric recently at a shop in Iowa City, Iowa, called Home Ec.  They sell fabric, yarn, and lots of textile arts supplies.  I understand there are shops like this in many US cities now.  Also Purl Soho in NYC, mainly known for yarn and knitting, sells fabric and I've gotten a couple of yards from them of some lovely stuff.

I'm not trying to make sales for Home Ec, but if you want to see what fabric they have I think it's on their etsy page.

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Re: Wedding casual?
« Reply #14 on: March 30, 2015, 09:21:09 AM »
How about a kimono? These are quite easy and comfortable to wear and they can transform an outfit. Here’s an example:
http://uk.monsoon.co.uk/view/product/uk_catalog/mon_1,mon_26/7480710851?skipRedirection=true

They are not difficult to make either. I made one last summer; did not use a shop-bought pattern, because the fabric was not that expensive, but if I was using  good fabric then I would have used a proper pattern.